W responded saying that she did want to work on things and she would have no problem giving up OM contact, which is why she had asked me what the first step would be. However, our email exchange (me not being willing to budge) was giving her 2nd thoughts again (shell game continues).
Your answer to this position should be "I understand; this is very difficult on all of us. But this is what I need in order to feel safe in the marriage again following your affair." (and do not budge)
