Several email exchanges in the past couple days, but basically here's where things stand...
W asked about coming over last night to hang with the family (cake eating). Told her I would not 'play house' while she took baby steps to see if her feelings would return. Told her they would not unless we took the necessary steps (MC, no OM contact, etc). She did not come over, but instead used that as an example of why she's upset with me (I'm not willing to work with her). Told her this was the final time I was asking her the question of how she'd like to proceed and any attempt to change the topic, avoid it or not respond would provide me her answer.
W responded saying that she did want to work on things and she would have no problem giving up OM contact, which is why she had asked me what the first step would be. However, our email exchange (me not being willing to budge) was giving her 2nd thoughts again (shell game continues). She's planning on picking the kids up tonight, then after we get them in bed, asked if we could talk.
So a decision WILL be reached tonight. Any lack of commitment on her part when she walks out the door tonight will reveal her true feelings on R and I will be prepared to start D process. If she wants to work on us, I have a list of marriage friendly MCs ready and the no OM contact plan prepared.
I still get the feeling she feels 'pressured' into working things out- financially, family obligation, living arrangements, etc, but I seem to recall Sandi saying she felt similar when she first came to this board.
