I'm glad you and the kids had a good time and arrived there and back safely.
As for "J", depression/mlc do tend to mess w/their memory. They have the memory of a gnat. So, don't "expect" him to remember things all of the time. The best thing to do is follow up your calls w/a very short email/text w/whatever he needs to be aware of. Keep the missives short because he will not remember half of what you've written. Their attention span is that of a gnat too.
I hope you'll be able to get a bit of rest to recover from the vacation. It's tough when you have to drive a long distance, unpack and get back on schedule again.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
