Dealing with WAW part 4

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Pilot, Gashy , Rayzzz, big mac,ss06,goat gal- , it sounds like we all have the same sitch going on! just different locations. I looked up the Chaos kids on web. crazy how so much is true and we are living proof of living through it! Somehow I truly believe we will all come out of this as better people. with or without S. If S comes back they will really appreciate the strength and patience we showed them during there crisis. If they don't come back we will be much further ahead of them in terms of our understanding of what we need in a M. The DB has been a huge help! I feel that if it is true love and we can show the patience even going through a D and after a D they may wake up and see how there actions caused the break up of the Family. My W is being extremely nice to me this week. She knows I need to answer summons in next 3 weeks. She thinks we will be good friends through this and after D because of kids. I am struggling with this concept. if you want to be best friends and help each other with kids then why D. I don't think there is any such thing as a Happy D. A great book that my DB coach recommended was by Gary Smalley called winning your wife back before its to late: whether she's left physically or emotionally. also same author joy that last. I would highly recommend both books you can download on your nook or smart phone. the Winning wife back talks about the issues that childhood or parent relationships have on our spouse. its really a good read! That's what I struggle with I want to be that person that loves wife unconditionally even if divorced. it talks about emotional baggage they are carrying around that nothing we do will make a difference in the relationship today. She will have to work through these areas herself in order to receive our love again. a woman is not in a favorable position to reconcile if she is struggling with her past.didnt mean to get to heavy but wanted to share this with you guys and girls .