Hi 2B, It took me a long time to stop wearing my ring after W stopped wearing hers. I finally stopped when it seemed that by not taking it off it looked like I was pursuing her or trying to stop her from getting what she wanted, a D and away from me and her "bad M". The week she took it off she went to FL to visit her dad. She came back talking about how she was so outgoing and talked to so many strangers (which she never used to do). Thing is she started telling me about the people who she spoke to and they were ALL MEN. One even tried to follow her off the plane to get a drink together and when she said no, he came back and asked her questions about how to find the right gate, where to go, etc. (obviously trying to pick her up!). She told me this with a wicked smile and look like "ha, ha. How do you like that H!". To me the only reason a person who is still married no matter what is going on is to show the world they are "available"! I really got upset about this, bad moment. But even then I didn't take mine off. I didn't think it was fair to someone who may be interested to find out that I was still married after thinking I wasn't. It all ended when W said she went to lawyer and was going to file. That was it for me. I took it off.
In the end, it's really up to you and how you feel. H is not going to change anything whether you wear it or not so if it bothers you, I would take it off. The M it represents is gone forever anyway. If you ever do reconnect with H, it will be a brand new R. Neither of you are the same people you were before all this and any new R will have to start from a whole new perspective, IMO. In the end it's how do YOU feel and what do YOU want.
