Dealing with WAW part 4

[Casey]

I really think she wants the freedom to explore whatever it is she is searching for, but wants the security of me at the same time. She wants the emotional security and friendship when she needs it, as well as a financial safety net.

This describes my W perfectly. When all this started, the talk was about needing space and needing to be free to experience life and "make her own mistakes". My W also pretty much went straight from living at home with her mother, grandmother, and nephews to being a W living on a military installation on the other side of the world. Except for a very short period of time when she lived in a dormitory at the university in the capitol she had never been on her own.

It is so strange how so many of these stories are so similar; like one could just copy and past from other threads and just change job and location details to have it describe our situations perfectly.

As to falling on their face financially, I think that experience has to be the teacher here. I think my W is smart enough and sane enough to know that moving out would drastically lower her standard of living to the point that she would feel real suffering, yet she still talks about doing so because her need to get away from me is so strong.