I was doing so good

[PeterV2]

Hi Dawgy.
Wow. I know what you're going through. I've been there. It's agonizingly hard.

I totally back what MLP & Cali are saying. So true. I know it feels like you're pushing her away and it's so counterintuitive it feels wrong. Believe me, it's the right way to approach it.

She will spew, like my W did. She will rewrite your history with things like: we never had any good times, I never did love you, I never should have married you - it was a mistake... etc.
It hurts with BS like that coming out of the mouth of one you love so much. It's really like she's possessed. The exorcist is time.

Like MLP says, it will get worse before it gets better. Strap yourself in for a real rollercoaster ride. It takes an incredible amount of courage and strength to get through this. You've got what it takes.

Like MWD says, it's the hardest thing you'll ever do in your life. When I read that I wept. I still do. I just want her back. but it's gone so far off the tracks we now have to take the long way around. There are no shortcuts. But there are coping mechanisms and the vets on this site will be helping you through this. All of us here have a bond by our situations. Just having an ear helps.

Be strong for your kids. Be the best dad you can be. Protect them from the poison. Love them. Spend time with them. Make the focus on them and your own self-improvements. That's the only way the WAW will stop getting pressured from you. DO NOT exert pressure on your W. Set her free. Like MLP says, the A won't last. And her life will get very messy and she'll hit rock bottom before she will admit there's a problem and seek to fix it.

Hang in there buddy.