It is a shame that there is nothing legal you can do . Since subtle suggestions are lost on him you will have to be direct. "I know the allegations against your gf father and do not want our children spending time with him. Can we talk about how this may work."

I realize that in his current state that may be useless but if there is no legal routes.. the lawyer said there was nothing? ?

Can you say you want to meet new people before the kuds do?

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15