I like the counseling for co-parenting strategies idea, too - it sounds like a good way to get a bit more on the same page and might help to take some of the pressure off you.
I'm on board the "what if being nice to him is showing consent train" too. It's not the most comfortable ride in the world, and it's easy to worry that being kind - which I generally try to do for most people anyway - is showing that I'm okay with a lousy situation and giving him permission to continue with it because I seem to be fine.
It's lousy, and resentment creating. There's no two ways about it.
MLP, thanks for the reminder that divorce doesn't take away the pain. I'm going to keep that in mind.
M - 34 H - 36 Together 10 years Married 4 years BD - March, 2014
