Igit newbie needs help part 3

[pilot]

I know exactly what you mean when you say it's hard to get a read on your W. Mine is the same. One day it's hugs and cuddles the next it is distance. We still have 'dates' when she comes in town but she still says she wants to move forward with the divorce. Even on that front she does not want to do anything with the divorce right now

What I think we have is Ws that are conflicted or have some degree of uncertainty. You are also right in that you (we) don't want the W back as they are. They need to under go some discovery of their own in regards to the M and R. Taking them back without changes on their part will not lead to a successful M

I would not put too
Much stock in her saying she is not attracted to you anymore. Those are just words and while they may be true today that can change at any time. Your best course of action is to think back to what attracted your wife to you in the first place. What were you like then? What did you do that you no longer do? I'm willing to bet you have long since ceased to be that person. Try to reinvent yourself in the image of your old self. She fell for you before and she can do it again. But only you can make her want you. You just have to be a person she will want.

Make sense?