It would have happened regardless. We are human and our intentions were good and pure. This is their rodeo.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
Thanks for you insight and supportive words. I posted as I was in the parking lot of the court house wondering, ""how the pho did I get here??" Then I felt sad and went into the courthouse and found myself in a better place. I had to get a hearing date which is a formality (we've decided on everything so hopefully it's accepted), however it is a bit intimidating. The closest I've ever come to a courtroom is watching Judge Judy so I guess it's time to catch an episode of Law and Order.
Hearing date is Sept 9th. Clerk was very nice. Said I was the smartest and cutest person to be in there in a long time. I said," thanks and I'm funny too-a triple threat." I'm sure they see everything.
It is sad, however merely a business transaction at this point. Realtor coming tomorrow to list house. We are ready for "GB and the Kiddos Take Life By Storm-Part 2". Hopefully, Ryan Gosling is in this version.
Sending everyone positive energy:-)
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3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
WOW. A few posts up ^^^ Mighty hit the nail on the head - about taking your spouse for granted, assuming they would always be there, because that's the way WE felt. I was never going anywhere. I married for life, and I thought H did too. I have blamed myself for taking him for granted for a year now. It is time to stop beating myself up about it. Thank God for this board. I don't know about you all, but it has been far more helpful to me than my IC sessions. Thank you Mighty for posting that thought. It's like the sun just came out. Hugs to all tonight. Hallelujah.
Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15
Thanks everyone. I need opinions. As I've mentioned, I've never uttered a peep about OW. I wouldn't really know what to say anyway:-). However, as a result of that, OW's dad is an issue. As I've mentioned, he relinquished his medical license due to multiple allegations of inappropriate behavior with minors. I have consulted with attorneys, and feel I need to reiterate this is not acceptable to h. Although I doubt h will be parading the kids around, he could get a wild idea to show OW and her sleazy mom and elderly dad how lovely the kids are.
Do I wait until after d is final 9-9? Do I mention it now?
H, the safety and well being of he children is paramount. Please know that the children will not be near OW's dad due to allegations.
Something like that? I'm all ears. :-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer