I completely get where you are at, I was there too .... and I find it amazing how the MLC's seem to follow such similar scripts. I will let you in on my secret, and hope it touches some of what you already know deep inside. The hard part .. where you are now, you have to let it go, she will do what she will do, she is in a fog and has decided to make you out to be the root cause for all her disappointments, right or wrong ... in her head .. YOU drove her to this, she feels she is the victim and OM is the one who "gets" her. .... she thinks her fantasy world life will be perfect and is focused on that ....the more you try to eliminate OM the more she feels compelled to protect and keep him..... Once I let WAW go, let her experience a life with a guy who has no idea what she is really like, does not love her like I do, let her see that her shiny polished gold egg fantasy life was flawed in every way ... it helped. I could not control where she was nor with who, I had to be a person that was harder for her to hate, I have a long way to go but I have seen progress ... she has been on and off with him all this year, I pray for her everyday ... and got to a point I prayed for OM, not for his well being (I am just not there yet) ... but for him to realize she needs her family, and what they have is wrong and was built on lies and deceit...the excitement will dissipate .... especially when she is not sneaking around.... like a kid .. we want what we can not have ... let that kid eat ll the candy for dinner and allow them to have the tummy ache and realize what they have done is wrong. Use the DB tricks you find here along the way to help you cope with the pain .... I have good and bad days, sometimes I need to see positives that just are not there .... others I just need a little pick me up, a reset from reading here to remind me I will be ok regardless ... and there have been some positives that I can hang my hat on.
Think about it ... even if she were to say to you .. "ok .. you win, I will be with you". Its not going to last ... she needs to look inward and realize you are the one she wants, want to work and do her part to save the M, for you... not because of you.
