I remember yours posts a long time ago; sorry for all you have been through. Do you find you are missing your H, or missing what it feels like to have a mate? I think that is the question when so much has happened...and I think that time tends to help with that. If you are missing your H, I hope things work out with you. But I will say this...even in the most heartbreaking sitchs, we learn so much. I have never felt as complete as I do now, and it is all because I actually GREW through my hurt and soul searching. But it took a long time, and coming to appreciate the people that I can truly depend on. I could not on past R's. Maybe one day...