Dawgy, I totally get your anxiety about your anniversary. Mine is in October, and my heart aches just thinking about it coming up. This one is sort of a no-win situation for me. I don't want him to do anything, because I believe so little of what he says these days, but I also want there to be some acknowledgement. It's a no-win situation, for sure.
The last holiday we had, really, was Christmas. He had gotten me a very expensive necklace for it, but he sent a picture of it to OW. Her response, "I always knew you had great taste. ;)" Ask me how much I like that necklace? Ugh.