Raliced, that's a good suggestion. I don't know how I would go about suggesting such a thing. He is willing to help if I'm really specific about asking him to keep the kids but he doesn't step up on his own. We have never been able to develop a discipline strategy together, it's always been me setting policy because I have kids 90% of the time and then telling him my thoughts. He HATES conflict and would rather let D11 have whatever she wants than risk her melting down.
I don't remotely know how to solve this problem because to me the first step would be him developing enough steel that he can handle pushback from his children. I'll have to change the way I see the problem to solve it but I'm having a hard time digging myself out of my current perspective to reframe.
I ended up sending a text saying "I'm sorry you've had a trying week. I have too. I hope your meeting goes all right."
He sent a text back telling me a little about his meetings and apologizing for missing back to school night. I didn't answer.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
