Wife having emotional affair part 2

[3kids]

I wish I could detach more. It's very hard. Last night me and the kids were over at the old house with the wife trying to clean it up for a garage sale and short sale. We where cleaning out one of the sheds and the wife took a phone call from OM. This upset me emotionally. I said some thing towards the fact that it was rude to take the phone call while I was there and me and the kids should leave. That I was not emotionally ready for her to talk to him in front of me. I told the kids we should leave. She got mad and said she was not being rude because she walked away with the phone call. But she needed to take the phone call because it was some thing that she needed to know from him. I took a walk down the drive way and calmed down. And explained why I was acting that way. And explained how it hurt my feelings and why. She get upset when this stuff happens in front of the kids. She feels I'm making it look like she is the bad guy. We continued to clean up. And she kept trying to egg me into a fight about belongs and who gets what. I did not argue about this. I just let her talk. I feel lately that she is trying to manipulate me into stuff. But I'm not giving in on some stuff. Like she is trying to get everything perfect so she can just move on. Like paying child support, splitting up stuff, leading me on. But I just don't know. She said my emotions are bye polar. She doesn't trust that this man I'm becoming is for real. She even said you have become this guy I wanted how many years ago. This perfect guy. And what's changed in you? And why are you this way now. I said don't you believe people change. And she walked away. I stayed where I was and sat down. She came and sat down far away from me and I made some small talk. And soon she sat closer to me. She asked me to watch the kids this weekend for her but I'm busy with my life so I turned her down. I said I could help out on Sunday if she needed and she said never mind. We ended our night and said good night.

I feel I need to detach more. The OM shouldn't bother me so much because I know he is just a fantasy. And I am the real thing. I see our friendship growing every day. A bit of a back slide last night but I still controlled my emotions for the most part. I know I'm doing a great job. The big problem is I fear the end of it all.


Any help or suggestion or comments would help!!!!