My W also has low self-esteem issues; her dad abandoned her family when she was very little. Seems like that causing problems later in a marriage are a certainty. I cannot remember who posited the idea, but if you google chaos kid, there is a really good explanation of what is going on in their (w's) mind and why. Almost like a MLC but it happens in late 20s and early 30s.
My W is supermodel beautiful but she always was worried about me leaving and being abandoned, and had/has an irrational jealousy regarding all other women ever since I have known her. Maybe your W has the same issues? I recall your wife was very young too; too early for a MLC.
Not sure what good it does to know what issues in childhood caused the problem because all I care about at this point is how to fix it.
Me37, W30, S7 Married 10yrs 05/11/04 ILYBINILWY 22/09/13 Disc. OM1 26/09/13 Disc. STD from OM2 03/02/14 Affair Confession 21/06/14
W and I share same apartment (for a few more days). W isn't pushing for D.
