That's a good epiphany, Lisa, and one I needed to hear.
I'm still really angry and disgusted with my H and not sure I could ever forgive him for leaving. But he's not asking me to right now so I can just go have a great life and quit worrying about it.
Thanks for the guidance.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15