Meghan, PLEASE don't send that. I have told you that your best plan is to do nothing right now.. However, it seems you aren't going to take that advice so let's at least get the response a little more mysterious...
Hi H.,
[s]I 'm doing great!!!Thanks for asking.I’m gearing up for the start of school and really looking forward to teaching my new class. We’re also getting started on the big grant project, so things have been busy and exciting! Having funding to work with is pretty fantastic. I have already met some really cool people and cannot wait to spend more time with them. Did I mention how excited I am?!?!
How are things with you? I hope you’re doing okay.[quote][/quote] [/s]
If you are trying to show that you have moved on then you need to compose a reply not like a BS does, but like a Wayward does. This looks like a typical BS reply that you are trying to show how happy you are.......It looks way too fake and like you are overdoing it. (and you ARE)
Wayward's actually do it quite differently. They hold their cards close to their vests. Say very little. They don't go overboard on sounding happy. They give short responses and ask very little about you. They make it hard to read their emotions.
Go read DBinSF's posts. He was the one who had the affair. Notice how his W has handled his situation. He is practically BEGGING her to take him back. She just sent him a short note about their gym membership and the thread has gone on all day on what that actually means!!! This is how they analyze when you hold back. Good God all this for just asking about a gym membership....
I recommend you answer something like this..
(don't use his name at the beginning, just start replying.) (don't say thanks for asking)(don't ask how he is doing)
(After waiting a day or two)
Just got your email. (SHOWS you are busy which is why you wait a day or two)(when people aren't reading their emails every day others just have to assume they MUST be busy doing something out of the ordinary.)
I've been busy and actually quite happy and doing just fine. (says you are doing fine and the word "actually" is another way of saying "I think I have discovered I am happier without you since you never held a job and didn't do much else around here to contribute, plus the fact you had an affair and then left with barely a goodbye, who needs that?")
I'm just getting ready to head out. Take care.
That's it... That's how a WS replies to emails from the BS. That's being mysterious without looking like you are trying to be mysterious. That is what it looks like when a person HAS moved on. They don't really want to say a lot to someone they have no interest in. They just reply to be nice. And remember.. Always be nice..
