What a tough sitch, HT. It sounds like you called her bluff with the "You move out, or I will file for D". That takes courage. Recognize that.
I don't think it's good to displace the kids anyway during times like these. Divorce is enough of a family adjustment, throwing in that the kids have to sleep in strange places to accommodate their parents and THAT sounds unhealthy to me. Consistency and predictability is so important during this time with the kids.
So I admire your tenacity with sleeping in your own bed. It might have been better if you'd had a convo with W first before announcing that the girls could sleep in their own room but meh, it happened how it happened.
Here are perhaps some other thoughts:
1. Is there an option of getting an air mattress and pulling that out each night maybe in the family room or on the floor of one of the kids rooms?
2. Can you watch TV on a laptop with earphones and sleep in your son's room?
just ideas because if she comes at you super angry then you have things to fall back on to make you seem flexible without being a push over. I don't know. Up to you.
I can tell you're tired of cowering. I don't blame you.
