The Amoeba Whisperer: "It's All Dog Training!"

[GoatGal]

Good feedback, Wonka.

I haven't digested all the Gottman stuff yet, but my Goaty Sense tells me that GUBU does need a little propping up in the ego department.
(And other departments, but we won't go there...)

Thinking back on our talk last night, and how he really seemed to be negatively responding to that "you're not the person anymore" statement I made, I wanted to clarify that I wasn't looking to bring in anybody, that I would prefer that he help me.

It's honest. He can decline. I said "IF you can." But I see what you mean.
-----------------------------------------

I was trying to do a bass-akwards "Words of Appreciation" LL approach.

I agree; a sprinkling of this is best---just a peanut every now and then.
"Intermittent Rewards" work best anyway!

(Remind me one of these days to tell you about my childhood friend, Tuffy the squirrel. I had a LOT of patience as a lonely kid.)


His other LL to GIVE is "Acts of Service"; that's pretty much it for him.
So allowing him to "do" for me, really appreciating it, (and I admit, over time I took it for granted because I was resentful about so many other things. You know--quit mowing the lawn and TALK to me, for Pete's sake!), is a 180 for me.

I was surprised when he fixed my bike.
That, for him, is a loving act.
-------------------------------------
Allowing him--not telling him-- to do more around here might give me more opportunities to appreciate what he does for me.
I am sparing about asking unless I really need something.
But he really does seem to like it when I ask for his help with the things he's good at.

I won't push--I just opened the door a crack.
I am OK with him saying "no".
So--NO EXPECTATIONS.


But I will take your advice.

I gave him a little opening, a peanut or two.

Now it's time to just sit in my swing and see whether the squirrel comes back...Maybe there's a peanut in my pocket, maybe not.
But I didn't spook the squirrel!

Or the Amoeba travels to the brighter side of the Petrie dish...

Or... shoot. I'm out of metaphors.

It's all good in the Triple G hood tonight.

----GGG

((((HUGS, AND DRUGS!!!!)))))
Yes, another sleep aid tonight and then I should be good with a few solid zzzzzs under my belt.