I'm sorry you have some challenging times with your D. She is at a difficult age and if she is anything like my D when she loses it, then it's beyond difficult to reign things back in. Those epic meltdowns are something fierce.
I hesitate to post this and I'm going to anyway. Your post resonated with me regarding you doing the child rearing, housework, fixing things, etc and your h wondered why you didn't initiate sex. Been there, felt that. I worked for a start up company (i.e 24 hour grind) for 18 months. I loved my h so much although I was secretly envious of my coworkers whose h's told them to go get a massage, or took the kids somewhere, etc. I worked 18 hour days sometimes, stayed up all night while kids were sick, took them to DR, cleaned the house, etc and yet my h was overwhelmed. Grrr.
No 2x4s from me for the text. We all have to release sometimes. Regroup because tomorrow is a new day:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer