I am not planning to initiate R talk. No way. I am trying to figure out what to do if HE initiates R talk...or just initiates wanting to spend time together
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Would it be nuts to show up at H's ice hockey game tonight?
Here's my rationale. Pursuit is bad...except when in the M you were always the pursued. This is my sitch, so it's a 180 to pursue H.
H loves hockey. I used to go to some of his games when we were dating but stopped. Another 180
Apparently OW likes hockey. Shows I can step in and share with him something they shared.
Crazy?
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Gentle question for you, honey....are you prepared for the possibility that OW is there tonight? I am not saying she will be...she may not be there at all.
We just don't know the status of the OW other than she's moved in H's work offices.
If you want to show up at the hockey game, you need to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself for the possibility that the OW might be there and how would you react.
Not to rain on your parade here...but this does need to be brought up.
Here's one way around this problem if you are not prepared for the OW being at the game, you can send a short text to H:
H, I think a little birdie would love to show up and cheer you on at the hockey game tonight! See ya soon.
I'm with u and was actually thinking the exact same thing, that a text alert letting him know I am thinking of coming would b wise. There's a chance he may not even go since he had the kids, regardless the text would give him an out if needed
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Got a reply from H about going to his hockey game: 'Yes, that would be ok."
Hmmm...not the raving OMG, that would be AWESOME!!! I had imagined, lol! I know, I need to give the guy a break and chill on the expectations
Happened to speak to DBing coach tonight and her advice was to go with the Yes and go to the game (I thought about bailing). She said if it seems too weird I can exit early and just send him a friendly text like 'Great game, sorry I had to bolt, have a work issue' or something to that effect. She thought bailing at this point would definitely be bad.
So I'm committed to at least drop by for a bit. Wish me luck, I'm determined to not let my mood get too low (or too high) for that matter, no matter what happens.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Perfume, perfume...lady! Look your best casual with lipstick and some tight fitting jeans!
Your H is your new boyfriend that you have a crush on...light and breezy! Don't forget to dole out a few "way to go, H!" and cheer him on appropriately. Don't over do it...'k?
Thx for the encouragement, Wonka! (Armed and ready...perfume and tight jeans). I can post while there if I start freaking for some reason, lol!
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
