Ggrass: Yes. Far too sensitive. The fact that he got so reactive when all I said was "Oh" when he told me OW was gone... maybe missed a beat, looked a little surprised... He says "What do you MEAN--"OH"???" Like I was a psycho for having any reaction to this. I'm human. She slept with my husband. (That's putting it nicely!) He saw her almost every day until she left. So-- I think "Oh." was a pretty friggin' cool response, considering!
And I agree, it's not my job to make him happy. I have enough on my plate keeping me happy. He has to figure out that it's not another person that will fix what's ailing him. --------------------------------
Wonka: "Stinkin' thinking' "---absolutely. Wait 'til you read my update!!! Thanks for being there when I needed you. Maybe that's why your Chocolate Factory is so popular! --------------------------------
job: His Empathy chip is definitely malfunctioning! As well as his Honesty Drive, Insight Meter, Maturity Gauge, Emotional Equalizer, Fidelity Plug In, ...the Logical Network is down for needed repairs until further notice, and the Mental Operating System is running very slowly indeed. He is also do for an upgrade: An Accessibility Program should be installed to facilitate the interface with approved users....
I am putting myself first, and making plans to get the help I need if he doesn't step up. If things don't get done, they don't get done. He knows I am no longer able. We shall see that happens next! -------------------------------------
Cadet/Georgiabelle: The departure of OW is significant because he knew that I've been waiting for this information. Whether or not HE believes it is relevant is not the point, although I get why he'd think that way. It's not important to HIM, therefore, not important. He knew it was very important to me to know she was gone, that it has been a source of pain. He had been updating me on how she's been looking for another position.
FYI: He worked with her every day, they had lots of freedom to fool around. During the A they used to hook up in empty rooms during work hours at least daily. So yeah, I wanted to know she was gone. And he could have just given me that bit of information, just to be nice. If he were normal... ---------------------------------------
Beatrice: Fragile is exactly it. He can't handle anything, really. He is a mess. I'm trying to manage my emotions, and I feel like I also have to handle his reactions. He needs to learn how to manage his OWN emotions, but meanwhile he's all over the map and dealing with him is like being in a prizefight: "Duck, dodge, right, left, uppercut---float like a butterfly, sting like a bee!"
I am trying to walk that fine line between encouragement, detachment, not pursuing, but being supportive and "safe". It's not easy. I don't want to be his therapist, but I always feel like I'm wearing my Therapist Hat. "Say this, not that, actively listen, validate, feedback.... "
Bea, thanks for your continued support! ----------------------------------
Shining: Well--you're very shiny! A real beacon. And you crack me up!
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You guys ROCK and I really think I'd be in the kooky house if it weren't for this board!
---GGG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
