WAH & MLC? - EA/PA - Please Help

[Train]

Hey, Sam. I feel like a boob bc I didn't respond a while back even though I promised. Forgive me?

But now that's a moot point.

I agree with Bond; you're handling this the right way. You did great.

Your H, in a nutshell, IS saying, "what will it take?", yes.

And I think it's a perfect time to put the ball in his court and tell him to put up or shut up, as Bond says, and you can absolutely throw out a couple of reasonable specifics: mainly, a NC letter, approved by YOU ... and YOU send it ... and a full transparency plan. In that plan, all detailed cell billing - for ALL phones - would be sent to you. You would be provided usernames/passwords for all accounts, including phones and e-mail. If H moving back home and finding a job nearby is what you would need to start feeling safe again, then by all means tell him that, too. MC, I'd think in your case, would be very important ... but only IF H recommits to the M; otherwise, you are wasting money and time.

And then leave it in his court. And THAT is precisely when inaction is an action. (Making sense now? ) You can give him a timeline, as Bond suggests, so that you're not just waiting indefinitely for him to respond.

Whatever you do, don't tell him everything you know ... or how you're getting your information. Starsky often encourages folks to find one source of intel that a WAS doesn't know you have ... that way you can "trust ... but verify."

You did really good in your conversation, Sam. Really, really good. Slow and steady now, soldier.