Thanks Bond...appreciate the insight from your own sitch and your guidance. I do have to learn to live my life and continue to work on me.
Maybell...that's where I'm stuck. I've done some different things, but (in my mind) I always relate it to her and I doing it together. I'm continuing therapy and we're working on figuring out who I am, just me, outside of the relationship with W. I lost that identity in the M...working together, riding together...we did everything together and were together 99% of the time for the last 16/17 years.
Loveher...thanks for your advice. I do love her very much and I want the M. But I have hurt her. I moved out a little over a year ago at her request. From Sept 2013 she has not waivered from wanting the D. Fighting for the M has to consist of me becoming a better person. Beyond that, not sure what else I can do. W's boundary was the A. She told me once I had the A, that was it for her; she has not waivered in that position for the last 11 months.
