Ok, need help. H is really warming and this is where traditionally I start losing my mind Determined to keep things in check this time.
Here's the latest:
H texts me a picture of the kids and says:
H: Guess where we are! Me: Douglas mountain? H: Keep guessing! Me: Mount battie!!! H: Spending the night at the state park (site of our first camping trip) Me: I remember it well H: Me too
This is very similar to when he warmed previously. Starts connecting via the kids then gets into old, happy memories of us. Someone help me chill and not start getting all giddy like a foolish teen so I don't muck this up again!
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
It's the expectations, Train. They kill me every time! And then something tough comes up and I really lose it because my expectations are through the roof. Not sure how to keep them in check this time, at least now I'm more aware
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Is this the same mdu that said 'I've blown it this time'? Enjoy the ride. I hope you can see what we're all seeing. You've got this. Just breathe!
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
Thx Barrybran. You, and everyone else here, are truly awesome!
H keeps texting me about his trip with the kids. It's really a change, curious to see how long it lasts and what might come next.
Regardless, I am so stoked about some of the changes I am making for me. Getting totally on top of finances, documenting every last penny I spend. Psyched about the work --- and power tools! ---I am getting done in the yard. Now enjoying some very relaxing kid free time.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
After all the texts last evening from H, have not heard from him today. Wish he wasn't such a squirrel! I know, patience.
Gosh I hope to know someday what he's thinking through all this. His behavior is so confusing.
Oh well, I'm determined to not get myself wound up about it this go around and just focus on the awesomeness that is me
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Oh boy. H texted me another picture of the kids. I replied:
Me: Fun, I'm jealous! H: We wish you were with us. We are on XXX island today. Me: Wish I were there too
I feel like we are on the cusp of something again and I think I need to prepare.
My current plan: if H invites me to do something whether it be as a family or a date with him I will go in order to continue to work to re-attract him. But any talk of R and/or moving home and I will remind him of the boundaries (which he already knows) around transparency, MCing, etc. Thoughts?
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
My thought would be for you to learn the fine art of the statement "Hmmmm; I'll have to think about that one." And "I'm afraid it's not that simple anymore; I'll have to think about that one."
Determined to keep things in check this time.
Spending the night at the state park (site of our first camping trip)
