DBing after WAW then reactive EA by me...NO QUIT!

[Spacey]

The issue with your son's school doesn't make a whole lot of sense. You have no control over whether there will be room at the other school for your son to be able to transfer. She's basically telling you that her desire to reconcile is dependant on a dice roll.

If there isn't room for your son at the new school, what does that mean for your wife? She'll give up on your marriage, but that's not going to stop her from having to go to that school, it's not going to stop your son from potentially interacting with the OW's children, and it's not going to eliminate the possibility that she will see the OW at school functions.

You've applied for the transfer, and you've pulled the strings that were available to you. You've done your part, and now your wife has decided that she will make up her mind based on the outcome of those efforts. If the outcome here depended on how hard you tried, that might be fair. This outcome doesn't. It's a roll of the dice. She may as well be telling you that your marriage hings on the outcome of the next Mets game, or where the next megalotto winner is from.

It sounds to me like your wife is attempting to assert some control here, without accepting the responsibility that comes along with that control. I won't say it's an empty threat, but it's a meaningless threat.