great response Heather! Mighty I can relate to your post so much, I guess most LBS can. It is a feeling (mixture of emotions) like no other. trying to make sense of it all when really you cannot. being in denial and not even realizing it, and the anger.... and not being able to turn off the love either, although it does fade after time passes, especially with the MLC actions. Like Heather suggested - definitely reading books helped me too and I had a workbook too, journaling, posting here, it does help to have a road map - mine was "rebuilding when your relationship ends" by Dr. Bruce Fisher. It doesn't cover MLC or abandonment really though which is why it is one good tool but I too was reading a lot of other material in combination. Then you read something that hits home and you go "aha! that's me!" and it does make you feel better knowing you're not alone and the only person going through this. I was so co-dependent, it literally felt like I was being ripped in half. Now I feel so much stronger being able to stand alone whole. Take it one day at a time - fake it til ya make it, just keep living take care.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
take care.