GB - my exH was a lot like that - I too did almost everything and resentment does build up and I didn't voice anything either. Feels like being a doormat, I felt I should have spoken up in retrospect but what's done is done. I was blamed for him losing jobs as well. You did what you could and don't blame yourself for this, I don't think any of us knew how to *work* on those things, we didn't even know that it was happening until after BD when we looked at ourselves. I too was much more relaxed when he moved out. Not immediately but i'd come home after work to just the dogs and it was so nice and quiet, no worrying about what mood he would be in and trying to make him happy and putting myself 2nd - mine was a bit of a narcissist to boot so that was an extra bonus. I didn't see it, couldn't see it until he left and I really looked from a different perspective. I know I did everything I could to work on it and I'm good with that now. I know inside he's a decent man going through something awful and I cannot help him. It's good for you to do all the introspection you're doing, part of the healing don't you think? It was for me - I'm still doing it, I guess we probably need to keep doing that to grow and stay on top of potential changes.
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
