More confused than ever

[T384]

I'm bad on my homework! I have been going out and staying busy.

I went out with my BFF last night and H came over to watch the boys so I could go out. I ended up texting him after the boys were sleeping and invited him to come meet us so he did. He just wanted to apologize to my friend and we all ended up having a great time. H asked to come inside after he followed me home. I ended up falling asleep and H let himself out at some point because we both agree we don't want to confuse the boys.

[woundedfool]

Good you are hanging out and staying busy.

But, I don't want you to rest or fall into a comfort zone in rebuilding your M, especially when his enthusiasm is so high. You need to be careful you don't just dive back into the old M.

Essentially nothing has changed in your R in the last 6 months. Except, you now have someone to fight for it with you.

[T384]

Right

He really is pushing for counseling. He still knows I'm on the fence but I agreed to counseling. I just signed the abatement papers for the divorce. I agreed to 6 months and then we will revisit the divorce and see where we are. He asked for reconciliation and to throw out the divorce. My compromise was the abatement

[Train]

I just signed the abatement papers for the divorce. I agreed to 6 months and then we will revisit the divorce and see where we are

Very wise.

[woundedfool]

He really is pushing for counseling. He still knows I'm on the fence but I agreed to counseling.

Just my perception, you don't seem too keen on counseling. Or am I reading you wrong?

[T384]

No I will go to counseling he just wants me to pick the counselor and make the appointment. I would rather him find one.

[woundedfool]

No I will go to counseling he just wants me to pick the counselor and make the appointment. I would rather him find one.

Any thoughts on my idea of you selecting 3, and then letting him pick from there.

Or... try a few find out who you are more comfortable with.

Or... remember telling me about the counselor at your hospital? How about them?

I think you picking the counselor gives the situation a bit of an edge, as you know what you are looking for (SBT/Pro-marriage/etc.) and you are already 6 months ahead of him in your "divorce recovery".

[T384]

I actually told H about the counselor I really liked at my work. He said he would see him. The only thing is is that it's pretty far. About 120 miles round trip and he only works 9-5

[woundedfool]

Ask the counselor at work if they have any recommendations locally.

My gut says he will have a networked suggestion or two

[woundedfool]

TO? How you holdin' up?