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Hard to keep this thread anywhere near top when I've got so little to post! For me, NC by me equates to NC with H. No texts, no calls. I'm guessing others are in my boat but those threads disappear as well.

It's been a rollercoaster of a week. Meeting with H last week put me into a negative spiral. In the absence of any contact from him, I think I'd allowed myself to dream that he had broken his silence to announce he wanted back in. Alas when that was not to be, things came a crashing. Barely made it out of bed on Sunday - but it was cold and rainy out so not entirely enticing either. On the plus side I caught up on Train's story and started reading Passionate Marriage which looks like it will offer some new perspectives on the whole "we're not independent enough" side of things.

But as roller coasters go - I decided on the Sunday night to respond to his text about my tax details with a phone call rather than a reply text (testing things out a bit, apropos by posts above). It went through to vm but he called back the next morning. I was driving so let it go through to my vm. He lefts a message saying something to the effect of "Fine to just send the details through by text. I just said we were married on the tax return because we're not legally separated." I had a query about what he needed and by when so texted back that I would call in 20 mins if that was ok. He agreed and so I called him back. Conversation was cordial. He elaborated on the marriage comment (to the effect of) "we're not legally separated and he couldn't be bothered looking into the rules." So that was a positive discovery - he didn't go through with the legal separation following the suggestion of the MC in our last session. I asked about his brother's baby (situation is improving thank goodness) then we ended it and he signed off with "Bye, hon". Now I am sure that was just a slip of the tongue, but frankly, given the way I felt the last week I'll take it! If nothing else it means he's feeling a bit more relaxed when we talk which is good.

So…after a bad week I'm now feeling a bit more chipper, especially after returning from tonight's GAL activity. I'll sit tight for a bit but it seems that reaching out ain't a bad thing in my case. The question is…is it a good thing?