I am somewhat with your husband in that I dont understand the importance of the OW being gone.
He is still very deep in crisis so that maybe a chapter of one cheeseless tunnel is complete but their are still millions more to try to go down.
IMHO you dont want him back while he is still in crisis, but that is just my opinion.
Get back to Letting Go and detaching, and trying to move forward with your life. His life is not going to make any sense while he is in MLC and tbh is a waste of your time.
This is the hard question, what do you want YOUR life to look like?
