Not sure what to do

[MrBond]

"How is that for changing the way I communicate?"

I'm not sure if that was supposed to be a sarcastic statement or not. You didn't change ANYTHING in how you communicated with her. You set yourself up.

"As we know you have been married twice before."

Funny how you never mentioned this.

"Damnit! Why couldn't she just learn to edit. We could have gone a long ways if she could have just learn to stop expressing herself so damn freely all the time. And why couldn't she have been a little softer. Would it have killed her to be a little softer?"

Would it have "killed" you to be a little more compassionate? You want her to shut up and be the happy June Cleaver of the home and just do what you want. So is that what happened to your last marriages?

The thing about drunken rants is that they bring your guard down and the truth comes out. You really do have a victim mentality. It's very obvious. And when she tries to communicate with you, you think she's a B*TCH. That WHOLE letter that you are complaining about is her trying to communicate with you in different ways. You just don't want to hear it.

I guess for you it's easier to make her XW number 3 and look for number 4. That is your pattern isn't it? Rather than looking inwards and doing the work, you look for someone else who you're "compatible" with or is softer. The problem is that over time you'll notice that they also have a mind of their own like every other woman and the same problems come up. Have you EVER thought that the problem lies in you? Maybe you should learn to start taking responsibility and be a man for a change rather than blaming it on your W.

Sounds harsh, but you pretty much called yourself out on that one in your posts.