DBing after WAW then reactive EA by me...NO QUIT!

[Joe1981]

Well, it was nice to be at work today. Good to see some of my work friends and be out and away from my S & D after the whole summer of "Daddy, Daddy, Daddy!" I'm sure it won't be too long until I miss all that time w/ them.

My W had an angry day today. She thinks I don't function separate from my family...which has in the past been somewhat true, but not now. She's mad at my mother for being upset w/ her for wanting divorce and not being super pissed at me for the situation w/ the OW.

She is adamant that she will move out if the school thing for S5 doesn't work out. While I'm not placing the same level of importance on that as she is (because I'm not giving up either way), I think she's trying to push away from me for herself some right now. I think she's trying to avoid hurting if it doesn't work and that she will just see it as confirmation of her plan for divorce.

If it does pan out, then we may be able to see about beginning the long road back. At least in that she's going to maybe be willing to give things time and possible effort.

I know this is mind reading, but it is also, to an extent, just seeing what is written on the wall before me.

Another thing I have seen is that when she starts being frustrated with me about all of this, if I try to address things a little more from the how/why side of things, she seems to respond a little better or at least soften on the anger front. I'm learning to face the confrontation more openly vs shutting down or trying to avoid it.

Rough day, but I'm not letting it send me down. The sun will rise tomorrow, I'll get another early AM workout in and then a day of training for us teachers. I'm confident I'll be OK no matter what happens. That has taken a while and I thank many of you for that.