Matt, Does the court system in your state have a mediator for your daughter? Maybe you can request one? Your d may feel more comfortable speaking with someone like this. They represent the kids and act on their behalf as their lawyer. Maybe this will help her have some input without feeling like she has to speak to either one of you about it. These people work with kids and are usually really good and understanding. Also, they are usually really good at picking up on any bs. Just a thought...
