The Amoeba Whisperer: "It's All Dog Training!"

[GoatGal]

(((((SHINING)))))

I'm so glad you're here!!!

I think you hit it right on the head.

Yes. I think he wants ME to ask HIM to come home. Pride, fear of rejection. You got it.

I just remembered something else I said before he went into the
"I assumed you'd be gone forever, not a problem, we'll be GREAT without you!" zone.

I'd said:

"I didn't mention being overwhelmed before this because it's not for you to fix anymore.
I mean, you are no longer that person for me..."
Wow. I just realized that's what I'd said.

This was Me, thinking I'm taking the pressure off, where what I really did was REJECT ANY BID HE MADE TO TAKE CARE OF ME!
I shot him down before he even got started.

I agree, he feels guilt and inadequacy because he is unable to do what it takes to make this better.
Because he DOES see what I'm going through, and he does care.

Deep down, under all that mask of stone, I think that's the truth of it.

I think it was Cadet, among other vets, who said, that THEY ARE REALLY ANGRY AT THEMSELVES, NOT WITH US.


Thanks, Shining.

A most excellent response!


---GGG