Is it better to have all ties cut so that we only stay in touch if he really wants to contact me?
What is your goal? What do you think would be better? Him getting a weekly dose of you, or him going without you and starting to miss you? The offers of help could be nothing more than attempts at keeping you close...at arms length. I am not saying cut him off and go full NC. Just giving you something to think about...
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I guess I can only console myself by realizing he is probably having similar crazy swings. That would explain his unpredictable communication and behaviors.
I doubt it. Men by their very nature do not have mood swings like women do. We have long drawn out moods. We do not go hot and cold in the matter of half a second. His unpredictable behavior is only that because you are trying to predict it. Quit worrying about what he is doing. Work on being that hot kick ass woman that guys swoon over. All the analyzing in the world is not going to derive a strategy to bring him back. GAL and being a woman he would be a fool to leave, well, that gives you the best shot. He has to see something he wants, not be told about it, and not have it crammed in his face. Believe me, he will be watching what you are doing, even if you do not think he is. Right now he has you, at least in his mind, where he can still reel you in should you start to stray too far. Drop the rope. Make him think you really have moved on, and act as if. Then see what he does.
Good luck!
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
