Hi Tarheel, I'm sorry that it's come down to this for you. I would start the divorce papers right away, in my state its a Divorce Summons and Complaint. If she does not respond within 30 days you get the relief that you ask for in the Complaint. The disadvantage is, you would be the Petitioner. The advantage is you are backing up the line that you've drawn. But just by getting it started does not mean that you cannot also settle together on the issues down the road, to keep costs down. It sounds like your L is not giving you the different options that can take place, so you may want to speak to someone else.
