Yesterday was "exchange the D14 day". Instead of doing it yesterday, she stayed here an extra night so she could be picked up by my MIL to spend the day helping her out. No problem. So, I got home today and my D14's dog was still here which is odd as she always takes her wherever she is staying. I text my D14 and ask if she wants me to drop off the dog at her mom's on my way to work. D14 says no, the dog can stay with me until she comes back on Sunday. Again, no problem. A few min's ago, a car pulls in my drive and it's my MIL and D14. I go out and ask if she came to get the dog after all? My MIL says no, W called and told her that D14 needs to stay with me another week because she thinks it is best if D14 stays with her for the first week of school since my W lives really close to the school, so D will stay here until Sunday and then spend the next 2 weeks with W!
OK, W didn't ask me about this or even mention it to me. She didn't ask if this was what I thought was best or if I wanted D14 to stay with me or her for the first week of school. My W just felt this was what she wanted and just did it! Not only that, she didn't even text me that my D was coming back tonight! Nope, just sent her here assuming not only that I was OK with this but that I would be ready for D14. When my MIL told me why she brought my D back I said "Would have been nice if W had told me about this ahead of time" and my MIL got this pained look on her face and said "I think she just found out herself". No, she didn't just "find out"! She has known when the first week of school is for a long time. This is something she planned, didn't tell me or ask me how I thought about it, she just didn't bother letting me know!
I'm really not happy about this! First of all who is she to just assume that I was OK with this. Next, why would she just do it and not even let me know that she was coming back or ask if I was OK with it! Am I wrong to be so ticked off at my W about this? Don't get me wrong, I love having her and will take as much time as possible with her. But for my W to make this decision on her own and not even bother to tell me, let alone get my OK I think is just rude and not something she can do without my OK!
I really want to text my W and ask why she decided to do this without my input and it is just common courtesy to let me know what was going on and that my D14 was coming to stay another week!
Am I over-reacting here? Should I just let this go and just not bother texting my W about how she went about this? I know I'm more than a little peeved at my W right now and in a bit of a "dark place" because of the IRS stuff and having to talk to my lawyer and all. I just don't want to cause more trouble because little Miss MLC thinks she can make a decision like this all on her own! Thanks guys! I don't want to make a mistake that makes thing harder moving ahead!
