Thanks twinmom, I haven't thought about what life would be like when the divorce is final because honestly I don't want that to happen, and I know that is burying my head in the sand but I think I should give it thought.
family night is a tough one, I can see exactly what you're saying, and I have often thought of this myself, it's the one thing that h has stuck to and was his suggestion, so there is a part of me that wants to make him stick to it.
I have done a lot of 180s, and as a whole, I feel great for it, and I know that h is noticing, I also know that I am no longer the source of his angst or stress, ow and her friends are doing that for him. I had actually just been talking to my best friend yesterday and she said too, that Mondays and Wednesdays are the perfect time to show him (in the brief time he sees me) my changes. and then as little contact as shared custody of the boys will allow.
