Not sure what to do

[MrBond]

"I don't pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead my wife. I don't call her. I don't talk about the marriage. I am getting a life, etc.

I am seeing a therapist to learn how to communicate."

And how actually are you "showing" your new communication skills? Talking to your W isn't pursuing. Especially in your case.

"I am clearly following the rules. How am I blaming my wife!!!"

You have to understand that the "rules" aren't set in stone and have to be adjusted for each person's situation. You said you and your W don't want a D whereas the rules were made primarily for those whose spouses want a D.

Your biggest issue is and has always been how the two of you communicate. Go back to your very first post. Since then, all you've been doing is blaming your W. You accuse her of being abusive, yelling, etc. Yet she isn't that way with anyone else. So it's obvious it's a problem just between the two of you.

The problem is that your situation is SO fixable! Have you read many of the other stories on here? We've had WAS's who have accused the LBS of physical abuse, had the LBS arrested, the children taken away, etc. They have it so much more worse than you do. You've got an easy problem to solve.