More confused than ever

[woundedfool]

I still owe a long post about our night.

Yes you do... We have been on pins and needles waiting to hear something

We still have been very open talking about eveything. I still stand by that I cannot make any promises. I almost feel like him 6 months ago. I'm so wary of him and his changes. He had flowers delivered to my work yesterday. He had everything for school packed ready and outfits picked out yesterday while I was at work. He showed up this morning bright and early and we took the boys to school together. He also forwarded me his communication with his lawyer saying he is no longer pursuing divorce

I ABSOLUTELY can see why you feel that way. You are especially correct that your roles have reversed (he feels like you did 6 months ago). I know that you would have sold your soul to have him back... now you wouldn't. But now HE is willing to sell his soul to have you back.

Another positive, you are tired from doing the heavy lifting for the last 6 months. You now have someone else to help carry the water.

Is this all really happening? He told me to pick a counselor. He wants to go alone and together.

Very good. But if I may be so bold to suggest, YOU select 3 counselors. Make sure they practice SBT and are pro marriage. Let him pick from the 3? (Just a thought).

He is currently at a job interview and will be quitting if this goes well

Good. If any blowback from quitting the Mansion family job: As always IANAL.... but he might have a reasonable shot at a harassment claim

I just can't feel I can commit. I don't know if my heart is all there yet. I'm scared. I don't know if I can feel the way I did feel about him.

You can't feel the way you did before. But ALL relationships evolve. It is natural you will have trust issues. Take the time to work on them WITH him. Remember how we said repair can take 1 month for every year you have been married? Guess what... that mean HE will have to repair his R with you starting today.

The guy from work has really been pursuing me and I feel this distracts meAs well.

IMhO, this is NOT good. Because it is a distraction (and frankly a temptation). If it was me, I would end it in no uncertain terms. (no need to burn a bridge, but be honest about your situation).