I think it might be helpful to step back and realize that it's only been a couple of weeks. When did you start your DB efforts? It's easy to fall into the trap of wanting instant results for our actions. Unfortunately, as everyone here will tell you, this is a marathon, not a sprint. Or in terms of MMORPG lingo, now that you've respec'ed, you're going to have to gain more exp before your AOE can reach him. Make sure to not aggro him while you continue to earn your exp and continue to do your best at staying AFK.
I love this advice and I'm thankful you imparted it. What a great way to put it!
I guess I'm impatient about all this because I can't shake the feeling that our time is limited. We don't have kids and so our interaction is sparse and limited to only whenever we're both home (and right now some friendly texts through out the day). Since one of my 180s is getting out of the house and not sitting around doing nothing, that limits things even more.
We live in the same house now, but we've mutually agreed that he'll take over the apartment when it comes time to re-sign the lease in October, and I'll move out. After that, there's zero anything going forward. No reason to talk, nothing. No more opportunities to DB or anything.
At that point, it's going dark, whether or not I want to. Sure, the going dark may make him see what he's missing, but I know my man and by and large it will be his opportunity to not think about it, to sit on his emotions until they go away. Game over.
I don't want to waste the opportunities I have being in the same personal space, for the next month and a half.
It's making me anxious and upset...so while I see what you're saying with the marathon and not a sprint....I feel like time's working against me.
Last edited by Two Sided Coin; 08/18/1406:11 PM.
BF:40 M:33 SD: 12 T: 8, never married, no kids together BD: 8/4, "I'm just done", "...too tired and burnt to try". PA confirmed 8/5 "It happened, but it's been over for almost a year".
