Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[HopeTex]

Thanks Shakspr.I am starting to accept that this will probably go to formal Sep or D first, and that any type of reconciliation is probably way down the road if ever.

I am open to a formal Sep, but not a wihy-washy undefined one like she seems to be hoping for: I move out and find and apt and keep paying for everything and we just see what happens down the road. If she wants a Sep it will have to be a formal one with a written agreement that defines finances and custody. I predict that if I insist on that, she will see that she is not going to get everything she is wanting and will just opt for D instead. We'll see.