I think ANY contact from you to W right now will make you look like a wet noodle.

How about having your L send her the letter? On letterhead.

THAT screams: "I meant business, sweetheart."

M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014