Thanks Starsky. That makes sense. H is pretty avoidant himself so I could be waiting around a while. But honestly, right now I feel pretty ok with that as I feel like I still have a lot to do to get my ducks in a row *if* we were to end up D anyway. Time is on my side.

Maybe I will post and practice some hypotheticals here when I have some time.

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14