switching threads, switching gears.....

[twinmom]

What is your life going to look like after the divorce is final? Try and make it look like that now.

You can be "daycare" on H's days but just be that and nothing more. Watch the kids while he is at work and as soon as he is off you are gone/he picks then up whatever it may be.

Unless you can handle family night and are willing to do this forever I would slowly cut that out. It's not just for s7 it's a huge cake eating opportunity. My H wanted me to be his best friend (nothing sexual) while he was living with her, then wanted "comfort affection" when she kicked him out. It wasn't till I went almost completely dark that life started slapping him in the face and I am seeing some changes.

Think about it, have you done 180's and he has seen the new you? If so than its time to make him miss the new you.