Yuk. That is not a fun dance. Any advice from the vets out there? I am guessing they will advise to focus on GAL like you are doing very well. I am curious, even tho this dance really stinks, is it getting a little bit easier the more you GAL and detach?
Codependent No More is a really good book recommended by several vets here, it has really good chapters on detachment and self-validation. The author encourages healthy non-anger-based detachment. But she says sometimes that just isn't possible, and if the only way you can start the detachment process is by utilizing some of your anger then do so. Because the detachment process is so so important.
Me:42 W:41 M:12 T:3 D7, D7, S5 Sep#1 Winter 2012 for 4 months W divorce bomb 6/9/14 Started "in-house separation" 7/2014 W files for D 8/28/14 I move out 9/27/14
