I Had Affair and Wife Wants Divorce (2)

[MrBond]

My D's are currently 11 and 7. When my W decided she wanted a D, my youngest was barely 2.

To this day, my oldest has self-esteem issues and tends to be a little clingy as if she felt my W was going to leave again. Although we've re-assured her, that won't happen, that fear still is in there.

In fact, my W's father walked out on her and her mother when she was just 7. I mean walked out and never came back or contacted them. PERIOD. So when my W was having her A, one of the things she told me was that she had the A because sooner or later she "knew" I would cheat on her. How messed up is that? I can see the same potentially happening to my D in leaving a future relationship out of fear of being abandoned.

So even during our separation, I made she she understood that I (being the male figure) won't abandon her or her sister so she would have a strong male role model. Strong and stable.